Supporting the Homosexual Union Socially and Legally

I wrote this almost ten years ago in one of my last college
classes…There are a few things I would change or word a bit
differently, but the core if it I still believe. California….read up…

Supporting the Homosexual Union Socially and Legally

The debate over whether homosexuals should be allowed to legally marry
is a somewhat new issue to the American public. Only in the last
twenty years has it been generally considered “OK” to be involved in
an openly “gay” relationship, even though homosexuality has been
documented since Greek times. Today, the issue of homosexual marriages
is discussed on multiple fronts. Aside from the issue of social
acceptance, the issues of legal partnership and shared medical
benefits have emerged as driving forces behind the increased demand
for statewide legislation on the issue of homosexual marriage.
Homosexual relationships are defined clearly in the bible, which again
supports the fact that homosexual relationships have been around for
many years. God also forbids them to have this relationship in the
Bible. God declares it “an abomination.” For a homosexual couple to
demand or expect the right to marry and for that marriage to be
condoned by the church is puzzling to me. Why would two people in love
want a religious ceremony that has been clearly and “officially”
banned by that religion? Even if the earthly church gives this type of
marriage its support, how can the persons involved expect the
spiritual God to forgive he or she for what has been declared a sinful
As I question a homosexual couple’s desire to marry within a religious
system that seems to imply that the nature of their love is “evil,” I
can understand the need for social recognition of the relationship.
Any couple, at some point in their relationship, wants to make a
public declaration of love. This declaration of love is usually
satisfied by marriage, which in nearly all cases, is not an option for
a homosexual couple. As any married couple knows or learns, marriage
has benefits other than love. Married couples can share medical
insurance. Married couples can gain tax and other monetary advantages
with a legal status of “married.” All of these things should be
important to anyone, and should be considered a social “perk” to being
monogamous and making a commitment to love and share your life with
one person.
With all these things to consider, a few points are clear to me. The
first is that whatever we are doing to deal with the issue of
homosexual marriages, it is not enough. Author James Q. Wilson states
in reference to homosexuals that the “campaign to aid them has been
going on vigorously for about a quarter of a century, it has produced
few, if any, gains.”  The second point is based on agreement with the
first. If what “we” as a society have been doing to recognize
homosexual marriages are not progressing, perhaps we need a change in
tactics. Instead of recognizing homosexual marriages by attempting to
redefine marriage as an institution, we need a new social definition
that creates a legally binding and socially acceptable entity while
allowing a homosexual couple to make a public declaration of love and
commitment. Clearly, a new form of legally binding “ceremony” should
be created, so that homosexual couples can share a life, but the
church does not have to be involved
With these ideas presented, one may ask oneself several questions.
What are potential ramifications to the institution of marriage if
homosexuals are allowed to form this new type of union? Will it
devalue the idea of marriage to younger adults and children? I believe
it will not. “Don’t we argue that we cannot be truthful about our
neighbor unless we are truthful about ourselves?” asks author James M.
Wall. I believe it is more important for my children and young people
in general to understand that truth is a far more important concept
than learning to be judgmental towards people. Perhaps you are a
deeply religious person who can quote scripture and you have read the
specific passages that deal with homosexuality. Armed with this
knowledge, how can you not “look down” on a homosexual union, let
alone the homosexuals themselves? The answer is simple. We are not to
judge. That is for God to do, regardless of which version of “god” is
worshiped or believed in. But for the church to perform the ceremony
should not be expected or supported.
Clearly, not everyone can relate to this issue, but anyone who values
love and the desire to be loved can understand this need in every
human being on the planet. While we continue to battle over whether
homosexual marriages can be allowed, homosexual relationships
continue. Homosexual men and women are not allowed to share medical
benefits, so one member of the couple may go without insurance or
adequate medical care, and may ultimately die as a result. Homosexual
men and women are not allowed to file taxes as a couple, so they must
pay more than his or her single friends and colleagues. Lastly, and
perhaps the most saddening, homosexual couples are not “accepted” at
any sort of public ceremony, such as a reception or party. They don’t
get the opportunity to make the public declaration of love surrounded
by supportive and generous friends and family.
The issue of homosexual marriage revolves around this public
declaration of love and support as well as a legal partnership that
provides monetary, insurance and other benefits. I think society must
acknowledge that even if we do not understand or support
homosexuality, we can support the loving relationship that is present,
provide a means for legal partnership, and let God do the rest.

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